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 The Yes Men Fix the World (2009)
IMDB rating: 7.60
Plot: Troublemaking duo Andy Bichlbaum and Mike Bonanno, posing as their industrious alter-egos, expose the people profiting from Hurricane Katrina, the faces behind the environmental disaster in Bhopal, and other shocking events.
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Directors: Bichlbaum Andy
Actors: Watts Reggie,Bonanno Mike,Documentary,
Rephrasing my porn question to give more details!?
My husband was home working from home for 3 years WITHOUT an income. We had a good sex life, actually I wanted more! LOL….I did. My needs were not being met=in my eyes anyways. see ….come to find out by fluke that he is on porno on the computer. Nice, huh? Yes and I have four children. This is what I have come to…going online to ask the world questions to my life/pathetic? You betcha.
So he has no income, financial disaster, though I pick up the pieces as usual. I work, started my own business in the middle of stress, and etc.
One day I had to stay home and he was so anxious. Pacing back and forth actually. "Why are you home?" Then he added, "Your my problem, not money anymore!" Either he had an appointment for sex/porno/whatever! or what mental illness?
Maybe I agree it is not really cheating afterall but it can become an addiction. I guess I am just groping for answers because the man I married is no longer around. He died with his ideas of grandour, sitting on a computer all day long, porn/?/cell phone porno too?
I guess when the day is done you just have to know your a good person, do what you love, keep your priorities in line (my kids of course), and know you cannot fix someone, right?
Ok just wanting this I guess to be my last vent session. Good luck to all you fellow nice people out there! On to taking care of my kids and a better life! I deserve it.
Sincerely,
Mary The Wife
I agree. Yes, when the day is done, you just have to know you’re a good person, do what you love, keep your priorities in line, and know you cannot fix someone,
Happy-2 | Jan 27, 2010
I read your other questions and the answer is clear.
LEAVE HIM!
You have asked many questions and the answer is always (or almost) the same, leave him. I think the problem is you don’t want to see the truth. You’re still hoping for a change even if you know it is very unlikely for him to change. You have to do what’s best for your children, they’re your priority, and that type of parental figure will do no good to them. Whenever he calls you bad words, where are your children? Whenever he’s watching porn in the computer or on his cell, where are your children? They could perfectly be hiding behind a door, hearing or watching everything he’s doing or saying. And that’s the stuff they’ll learn. If daddy does it, it most be ok, right?
Do what’s best for you and your children and leave that guy!
Isa | Jan 27, 2010
Okkaaay!
Optimist | Jan 27, 2010
He is being disrespectful to you and in a marriage with out respect there really isn’t any love or honor, i do my best too respect my wife and her wishes and all i ask is to get the same in return and it has always been loped sided kind of like in your case.
Jim #1 | Jan 27, 2010
DIVORCE THIS MAN!
mimi | Jan 27, 2010
I think you are right, from the sounds of it, it is an addiction. Unless he wants help, you cannot fix him. I think not having him in your life is best for you. Good luck.
Common sense isn't anymore.. | Jan 27, 2010
I usually jump over the porn questions but this one seemed intriguing. Since I didn’t read the last one I guess I have to say that when a person is taken out or purposely takes themselves out of the worlds view of their role in life then things just start falling apart. He needs a wake up call but only after you either make him get a job or you get one for him. What I am saying is he will end up with the kids and you will pay support on more levels than you will want. Make him get a job, disconnect the computer, and put him on notice. Spell it out to him how it’s going to be (even though he seems to be in the catbird seat). Homeless and penny less! keep injecting that thought. All day for months till he smells the coffee.
delux_version | Jan 27, 2010
Tell him to hit the road, change the locks on your doors, and buy a shotgun.
jerryb | Jan 27, 2010
mary
your assumptions are correct - he needs fixed, it is up to you whether you remain with him during his repair or not, sometimes being patient with other people takes entirely too long and you must fend for yourself, and for your children.
physically it is not cheating BUT it is still cheating on you, if you are not participating mutually with him in the pron sessions for the benefit of both of your sex lives it is one sided and it is cheating. his duress with you home is the biggest clue, you aren’t invited to his porn sessions, he is achieving his needs but neglecting yours. AND his needs are being met by others not by you, he should give you this opportunity.
he is not fulfilling his role as husband / provider / father to the family, you are correct by stating you and the children deserve more, you can accomplish more without him to burden you and set horrible examples for the children.
as for your comment of (This is what I have come to…going online to ask the world questions to my life/pathetic? You betcha. ) sometimes it is easier to talk to a stranger than it is to family and friends because we don’t have prejudices against you because we don’t know you. but you do deserve all that the world has to offer you. don’t put yourself down over him.
we hope that your "venting" has helped you in realizing your new found freedoms and wish you luck in achieving what is best for you and your children
t-rexs | Jan 27, 2010